Cold Sore Conundrum and Breaking "The Rules"

Last night I went out with a guy, Russell, who had initially asked me out nearly a year ago. I met Russell on an online dating site. Initially we were due to go out last year, but then he was called out of town for work.

I find that these sort of flakey excuses happen frequently in the online dating world. I assumed it was code for, "I really don't want to go out with you." Russell assured me, however, that he really did want to go out with me and that his last-minute travel was not an excuse.

He spent 6 weeks in the Mediterranean. I think he works in the shipping business, but I'm not really sure what he does. When he returned to the UK I was already ensconced in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend, RTC.

Friday morning I got a text from Russell. He asked me how the relationship was going. I told him it was over. He then asked I wanted to go out with him for a drink on Saturday. I said yes.

Now, The Rules say "Never accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday." Is this a drastic error? I just wanted to go out and it not be a big deal. Do any girls here follow The Rules?

So last night Russell and I met up for drinks. Surprisingly, he looked better in person than he did in his profile picture. It's the opposite for most guys. How they look in their profile pic is usually the best they've ever looked. Viewing them in person normally leads to some  disappointment.

Russell looked great except for a cold sore he had on his lip. I could tell he was slightly embarrassed by this, but I didn't want to bring it up.

I've never had a cold sore. I don't know much about them. All I know is that I didn't want that thing near my lips. Are cold sores contagious? I think they are, right?

After drinks we went to a 5 star Chinese restaurant. The meal was great. The conversation that Russell and I had was great. I just really seemed to get along with him. The sad thing was that I actually had a great time with Russell and I wanted to give him a good night kiss but with that cold sore I just couldn't.

So we had a really awkward moment at the end of the night. I gave him a peck on the cheek and scurried off. I guess it wasn't the best way to handle it but I did not want to go anywhere near that monster on his lip. Couldn't he have waited until it cleared up to ask me out?

What do you think?

Breed Sex Part 1: They Want to Cum in You.

Breed Sex Part 1: They Want to Cum in You.
Meet the Men Who Want to Knock You up

“Like a good submissive little breeding slut I spread my legs wide and pulled my ass up off the bed so he could plough me hard and deep. I've never been one of those girls that can have multiple orgasms - in fact I'm often lucky if I have an orgasm at all. However, with this breeding I not only came but I came FIVE times.

“He had me up on all fours, his cock slamming into my cervix with each stroke, his cock bare, my pussy fertile, and I couldn't help myself I came as he pounded a huge load of warm sperm into my very eager womb. His cock head was nesting right up against my cervix and I could feel every squirt, every throb, and every little tremor as he pumped me full.

“He kept his cock wedged into my pussy for a few moments - pushing it in slightly and making sure his cum was nice and deep. As his cock slipped out of me, a trail of warm cum dripped down my thighs; I lay on the bed knowing it was possible he had just impregnated me.” – Breeding Female

Of all the subjects within sexuality that I’ve researched; Breed sex AKA Pregnancy Risk Sex has to be the single most fascinating yet morally dubious of them all. There are so many facets to this topic that one article cannot do it justice. This is the first part of a three-part series.

What is Breed Sex?
It’s just sex. It’s heterosexual sex without contraception. It’s having sex for the purpose of procreation. It’s about purposely not using contraception so that the possibility of getting pregnant remains. No contraception is ever used. Pulling out is not an option.

Ironically, Pregnancy Risk Sex isn’t about having children. It’s not about raising children. The child-rearing part is the very last concern. Pregnancy Risk Sex is about using the risk of pregnancy to heighten the sexual experience.

As with most fetishes, the internet caters for large community of like-minded people. There are at least a half of dozen breed sex forums on the web as well as various posts on Craig’s List. For my research I went undercover in the community as a woman wanting to try out breed sex.

Within the breed sex community when a woman announces that she’s ready to ‘breed’ she receives a substantial amount of male attention. Certainly was the case with me. After posting my, “London girl wants breed sex” ad I had received nearly 100 messages. It was bizarre to think that there were that many men in the world who want to knock me up. It made me think that if I legitimately wanted to have a baby on my own I’d never have to go to a sperm bank.
To say the least I received some interesting replies from men wanting to make babies with me.

“I'm a man who loves and craves to fill a pussy full with cum so you’re leaking my cream for days… I'd be always trying to knock u up and not just once. The joy is in sticking around not running off.”
– Breeding Man in Newcastle, UK

“I read your profile, my favourite things is to cum as deep as possible in a pussy, never want to pull out or use birth control but it’s difficult to find women who are into the same risky fun as me. I noticed your post as well, what arrangements are you looking for from the guy in question? Interracial breeding has always been a fantasy of mine also.”
- Breeding Man in Guilford, UK

“Black goddesses preg by white studs is SEXY!! Black goddesses have the natural DNA to make their breasts HUGE, to just be so amazingly sexy when preg!!! You should hit me up.”
- Breeding Man in Germany

Who’s into it?
You’ll find that this is a fetish that both men and women actively engage in. Not surprisingly there are far more men in the scene than women. Generally, the men can be divided into four categories: The Altruists, the Clockbeaters, the Egotists and the Bump lovers.

The Altruists.
These are probably the most unselfish of men from the breed sex community. They derive their joy from giving the gift of life to childless couples or individuals. Their desire to bring kids into the world is so strong that they are willing to forgo the old fashion way of baby making and go for artificial insemination. What’s good about these men? Their hearts are in the right place. What’s not good? Essentially they are low rent sperm donors. Don’t expect any further relationship once the baby is born.

The Clockbeaters.
These guys so hastily want to have kids. I suspect this is because they feel that their biological clocks are running out soon. They are willing to traverse oceans and continents and even relocate in order to find a woman to do this wait. An unfortunate thing about these men is that they come off as wholly desperate. Women can smell desperation a mile away and believe me it’s a foul stench. These guys want kids so badly that they would be willing to have breed sex with any woman. It’s hard to feel special when one of these guys chat you up. What’s good about these guys? They often want long-term relationships. They tend to be the marrying kind. What’s bad about them? All the Clockbeaters I spoke with wanted at least six kids. Part of their impregnation fantasy is to keep the woman in a constant state of pregnancy, churning out one kid after another.

The Egotists
My least favourite of the bunch, the egotists believe that their “seed” is all powerful and can easily knock up any woman. One egotist bragged to me, “I bred a 42 year woman in two months!” My very unscientific diagnosis is that these guys’ egos are way out of control. The way they view the world is through a prism of self-delusion and self-centredness. These men tend to be quite dominant. They view any woman who takes their cum as the ultimate submissive. These men want to get as many women pregnant as possible. Some of these men enjoy only impregnating other men’s wives (without the husband knowing). Some of these men actively sabotage birth control.

Some birth control sabotage tips I was given:

1. Putting baby oil on a latex condom.
2. Puncturing the condom. Apparently you need to put many holes in the condom, not just one.
3. Slipping antibiotics into the girl’s drink; as that makes her pill less effective/ inactive.

What’s good about these men: They are horny as hell. They have extremely high sex drives. What’s bad about them? Where do I start? These guys definitely epitomise “Love ‘em and leave ‘em.”

The Bump Lovers
These men have a fetish for pregnant women. They love the idea of planting their “seed” and watching the woman’s stomach grow and grow. They also fantasise about sucking the milk from a woman’s tit.

“I WANNA PUT A BABY INSIDE YOU
I've always found pregnant women attractive, and fantasized about putting a baby inside a willing partner.

I wanna start by giving you a back massage, then work my way down, then slowly take off your little panties and cuddle up behind you with the tip of my dick in at the opening of you vagina, and I'm going to massage your naughty parts and talk dirty until you beg me to put it in you.

Then I'm going to slip it all the way in so the tip of my penis is touching your uterus, and then I'm going to get on top and start going wild on you, until you start to orgasm, then I'm going to press my body close to yours with my dick in as far as it can go and shoot my load all over your inside.”
– Breeding Male USA

Are you ready to try Breed Sex?
Risk is inherent in breed sex, however, risk exposes you to the plight of sexually transmitted diseases. Having breed sex is an easy way to contract with HIV, Chlamydia, Herpes or most other STDs. Many people in the breed sex community are aware of the risk and have no problem getting themselves tested. Even if you do get the ‘all clear’ the real question is, are you ready to dad or a mum? Ultimately, is it worth the risk?

End part 1.

Next week Breed Sex Part 2: Meet the Cum Whores who want Your Baby

Chlamydia is Not A Flower

Maybe You've Got Chlamydia?



Since my last post was about Herpes, it's more than appropriate that this one is about Chlamydia. The good folks at the West NHS are offering a FREE test kit by post, form your GP or participating pharmacists or from a local Westside Contraceptive Services Clinic. www.check-kit.org.uk

"Chlamydia may cause serious health problems if it’s left untreated: preventing men and women from being able to have children. It can also lead to arthritis. Anyone who has had unprotected sex could have Chlamydia and not know about it, because it is often symptomless. That’s why we’re telling people to come and get tested in May.

“Just one urine sample can show if you’ve got Chlamydia which can be treated with a single dose of antibiotics. You can get a free, confidential test from your GP or participating pharmacists or clinics like ours. Visit www.check-kit.org.uk to find out where to get a test or to arrange to get a postal kit sent to you.”

Some quick facts about Chlamydia

• London has the highest rates of Chlamydia in the UK
  
• 60% of under-25s cannot say for certain that they don’t have Chlamydia
  
• 66% said that they had had unprotected sex: (54% had done so in the last six months)
  
• 72% of those who had had unprotected sex had never been tested
  
• 70% said they were ‘not worried’ about STIs
  
• 65% did not ask the last person they had unprotected sex with about their sexual history
  

The good folks at the NHS have sent me free test kit along with goodies. I'm going to take the test tomorrow. Stay tuned for your ressults

Herpes and the Craig's List Liars

Herpes and the Craig's List Liars

Ever wonder how many people on Craig List's have herpes? In London the answer is 56. Who knows what it is in New York, San Francisco or Chicago?

I know that there are at least 56 people on Craig's List in London that have herpes because I have surreptitiously been given a list of names and e-mail addresses.

A dear friend of mine, who wishes to remain nameless, contracted herpes years ago from a cheating parter. She's not with the partner any more, however she hasn't had sex since they broke up. With her condition she's never sure how to date or bring up the fact that she has herpes on her dates. It's been so long since she has had sex, that for now, she's looking for something casual.

I suggested to her that she should disclose her condition and try to find someone on Craig's List. After all, that place is a madhouse and caters to everybody! So she ran an ad looking for someone who also has herpes that she can have sex with. Simultaneously, I ran ad looking for a guy "disease and drug free" who wanted to have sex.

At the end of 2 days, my friend and I compared lists. Shockingly, there was crossover. Out of the 56 men who stated they have herpes to her, 6 of them replied to me and said they were disease and drug free. That's just over 10%. So either they were lying to her or they were lying to me. I'm gonna guess that they were lying to me.  

Not only did men lie about their sexual health, but they often changed their marriage / girlfriend status when replying to my ad compared to my friends' ad.  One guy told my friend he was living with his girlfriend who gave him herpes and looking for "a bit on the side."  When he replied to me, he said he was single.  Trying to suss him out I asked him point blank: "Do you have a girlfriend?  When were you last tested for STDs?  What were the results?"  He replied that he was single, had been tested last month and had been given the all clear.  

I don't want to condemn anyone who has a sexually transmitted disease. The men that admitted they had herpes to my friend are to commended. They were honest about it. Honesty should be part of sexuality. The filthy idiots that lied about it deserve to rot in hell. If I'm looking for someone "disease and drug free" and they reply to that even though they have herpes that makes them a liar with no regard for my sexual health.

• Tim
  
• Darren
  
• Broc
  
• James
  
• Richard
  
• Bilbo
  

I'm sure those aren't your real names, but lying about your sexual health isn't cool. 

There was something else interesting that happened with my friend and her Craig's List ad. There were replies form 56 guys with herpes, but she had another 40 replies from guys who didn't have herpes who wanted to have sex with her anyway.  I'm not sure if that was creepy or kind.

Some of the men felt sorry for her that she hadn't had sex in while.  They offered to help her out with the use of protection.  Other guys, she reckoned were just sickos wanting to get laid.   She forwarded me one of these replies:

Hi, I saw your ad, and I have to admit, it's certainly unique! At any rate, I don't have herpes, but I wouldn't mind chancing it! I don't know if it matters, but I'm 23. I have to admit, I've a thing for older ladies. Well, I hope I hear from you! 

She didn't pick that guy, obviously.  But she meet a nice older gentleman with herpes.  She said she had a good time and will be seeing him again.  

Despite all the lying on Craig's List it's nice to know you can still have a happy ending -- and not the kind in the 'erotic services' section.

-Anjelika

P.S. Ladies, if you ever need me to cross reference your Craig's List hook up for herpes let me know. I've got a list.