Saturday Date with the Black Doctor
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Black bourgeois mothers are similar to Jewish mothers in that they're always pushing you to marry a doctor or a lawyer. My mother was no exception.
Although she never met my ex-boyfriend, she assured me that she didn't have any problem with him being white. That being said, merely weeks after my break up she called me to tell me that a retired schoolteacher friend of hers has a son.
He's a doctor. A black doctor with "Good hair" (her words not mine). And he's single. And he's due to be in London for a medical conference. And it would be such a "big favour" if I showed him around the city on Saturday.
I tried to weasel my way out of it but then she laid a guilt trip on me about forgetting mother's day last year. In my defence it's a different day in the UK than the US!
So I spent Saturday showing DeShawn around the west end. DeShawn was 6 feet, good body, "good hair", perfect teeth. His skin was a few shades darker than mine. He was courteous, polite and well-spoken.
He was 39, divorced with 1 child. He specialized in internal medicine and lived just outside Atlanta. He went to Howard and Johns Hopkins. And despite his penchant for Tyler Perry movies, he had a cool personality as well. On paper, he looked excellent, but I just didn't feel that spark of attraction.
I think, in some ways, I was/ I am still pining for my ex. The ex, by the way, I heard in in hospital with swine flu. I've been debating on whether or not to go visit him.
I digress, so DeShawn had the whole package. Looks, good job, manners. The thing about DeShawn that seemed really weird was that he was just SO NORMAL. There was nothing weird about him. He didn't seem to have and weird hang-ups. Even his divorce ended amicably. He's on good terms with his ex-wife and good friends with her new husband.
DeShawns life is all about smooth seas and calm waters. I, however, am like hurricane Katrina. I will fuck your shit up if you get too close to me.
Maybe he will be the one that got away? I'm sure, however, there will be some sista out there who will be very happy to meet him. He claimed that he has trouble finding smart intelligent black women. But surely Atlanta is buzzing with them, no?
I dunno, DeShwan seemed to be a good guy after a relationship. At this moment, I'm not the type of girl looking for a relationship. But I just didn't have the heart to tell my mother that right now, I only want to fuck.
Although she never met my ex-boyfriend, she assured me that she didn't have any problem with him being white. That being said, merely weeks after my break up she called me to tell me that a retired schoolteacher friend of hers has a son.
He's a doctor. A black doctor with "Good hair" (her words not mine). And he's single. And he's due to be in London for a medical conference. And it would be such a "big favour" if I showed him around the city on Saturday.
I tried to weasel my way out of it but then she laid a guilt trip on me about forgetting mother's day last year. In my defence it's a different day in the UK than the US!
So I spent Saturday showing DeShawn around the west end. DeShawn was 6 feet, good body, "good hair", perfect teeth. His skin was a few shades darker than mine. He was courteous, polite and well-spoken.
He was 39, divorced with 1 child. He specialized in internal medicine and lived just outside Atlanta. He went to Howard and Johns Hopkins. And despite his penchant for Tyler Perry movies, he had a cool personality as well. On paper, he looked excellent, but I just didn't feel that spark of attraction.
I think, in some ways, I was/ I am still pining for my ex. The ex, by the way, I heard in in hospital with swine flu. I've been debating on whether or not to go visit him.
I digress, so DeShawn had the whole package. Looks, good job, manners. The thing about DeShawn that seemed really weird was that he was just SO NORMAL. There was nothing weird about him. He didn't seem to have and weird hang-ups. Even his divorce ended amicably. He's on good terms with his ex-wife and good friends with her new husband.
DeShawns life is all about smooth seas and calm waters. I, however, am like hurricane Katrina. I will fuck your shit up if you get too close to me.
Maybe he will be the one that got away? I'm sure, however, there will be some sista out there who will be very happy to meet him. He claimed that he has trouble finding smart intelligent black women. But surely Atlanta is buzzing with them, no?
I dunno, DeShwan seemed to be a good guy after a relationship. At this moment, I'm not the type of girl looking for a relationship. But I just didn't have the heart to tell my mother that right now, I only want to fuck.
Labels: dating, first date
posted by Naive London Girl at 2/08/2010 03:32:00 AM
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Sorry it didn't turn out the way you would have liked. But there's an email for you on Facebook that you haven't replied to yet. ;-) CD
First off , let me say what everyone else is going to say. DO NOT visit your ex, i'm not going to be catty as say he's got what he deserves but...
If you must, send him a card but don't visit him, just try and close that chapter.
Did you ask the good dr if he would be interested in just fucking?
But no i probably think it's better if he goes to another smart pretty black woman.
good luck with the hunt
- e
I think you just exhibited the problem that normal Black males have in dating Black women.
Black women for all their rants about wanting a good Black man. Black women seem to want a "good" white man but want a bad black boy.
It's unfortunate but that is the state it is in now. You said that it shouldn't be a problem in Atlanta, but you just verbalized the problem. If a Black Male isn't thuggish. Black women seem to lose interest in him. But these same women would date a white nerd.
I'm glad that you can honest say that it isn't going to work out, and not string him along. I hope that he does find somebody. I just believe that it will probably not be a Black woman. I hope women don't complain about successful black men dating out then.
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